For many of us, asking for help can is one of the hardest things to do. Even if we are one of those folks who are always there for others in need, for some reason, we can’t translate that understanding to ourselves when we are in need. We may not want to admit it, but shame and ego are the biggest culprits behind all of this. They are the barrier to asking for health, abundance, growth, success, and love. It’s only when we can recognize that asking for help is an act of bravery and badassery that we can fully access our full potential.
What Does It Mean To Ask For Help?
Asking for help means that you’re willing to evolve and expedite your process for growth. It means that you are human with real feelings and real needs. And you are willing to honor and respect those feelings and needs. Asking for help means that you are strong, brave, you are a leader, and lead by example. You are willing to let people support you, which means you are ready to allow the love in. You understand that we are not alone, and there is something bigger than me and my ego. Once we can put our ego aside, we can then think of ourselves as a channel or a conduit connected to something that is so much bigger.
Signs That We Need To Ask For Help
- You feel like you are suffering in silence
- You struggle with anxiety, depression, or weight loss.
- You feel stuck, lost, and stressed the fuck out.
- You’re spread too thin and never feel like you have enough time in the day.
- You feel emotionally up and down and fragile.
- You often feel misunderstood, frustrated, and feeling like a victim.
One of the more common signs is that you blame others for expectations that were never communicated to them. People cannot read minds, and it’s YOUR responsibility to let them know, “hey, I could really use some help with this” or “I really need some support right now”. So if you do catch yourself casting blame at others for your unvoiced expectations, it may indicate that you are actually not asking or making those requests. Remember, you don’t get what you don’t ask for.
All Successful People Get Help
Realizing and admitting that you need help means that you are self-aware, self-empowered, and have high self-love. The most successful people have support in every area of their lives. I used to think that I was really extra. Every week I would see my therapist, my acupuncturist, and my yoga therapist. I had so many people supporting me all the time. But I never thought it was because I was a hot mess. I thought it was because I was fucking worth it. Why wouldn’t I get myself that help? I’m a badass bitch, and I’m trying to glow, and I know that i’m gonna grow faster if I get taken care of. Don’t be afraid to take care of yourself and understand that the most successful people have help in every area of their lives.
We all need support
We all need support, yes, all of us. We are not meant to our lives in isolation. I can say that the one thing that has always helped pull me out of all of my lowest points in life was my support system. This is my community, It was my therapist and my coaches, friendships, my partner, and mentors. It was my support system that got me to where I am today. If I didn’t do that, I would still be isolated.
We also need to be able to ask for help to preserve our physical and mental health. Often, we wait until we’re in shambles to get help, and that’s ok; better to start somewhere than nowhere. At the same time, we must stay ahead of it. We should always be in preventative preservation mode, so you’re not falling apart and having to pick yourself up.
Why We Resist Getting Help
What’s the reason why so many people resist asking for help? Honestly, it almost always comes down to fear and shame. I’m mean, there may be more to it, but that’s more than likely the root of the issue. Often, we’re afraid to ask for help because we shame ourselves about what it might mean about us, that I’m weak, I’m incompetent, or broken. It will be different for all of us, but we need to realize that we are the only ones thinking that way. So get out of your own way, ask for the help you need, and experience how much your life can expand when you’re not going at it all alone.
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